My friend Noch Noch commented on “Forge Thyself”, and she made a great point.
She alluded to the fact that self-improvement has to be balanced by, and informed by, the matching pursuit of greater authenticity.
When we try to say anything in words we necessarily imply that the opposite is not true. If it is the day, it really is not night. That is how logic works and it is perfect for expressing the truths of many domains of experience.
For some domains, though, and in particular for our inner life, that is not always the case. As Niels Bohr, one of the pioneers of quantum mechanics, said:
The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth.
Profound yin truths may very well be balanced by profound yang truths.
My motto emphasises the yang, Noch’s “Be Myself” emphasizes the yin. They are not opposed. Being yourself and forging yourself are dancers, what really matters is the dance.
A dance exists in the interaction. As soon as we look at one partner or the other, the dance vanishes. The whole point of the dancers is the dance.
The idea of forging the self is not to make a plan and just impose it. Nothing will shape a goldfish into a rhino. The forging I speak of is a process of cooperation with being, an alignment with being that recognizes a current within being: the current of becoming.
To forge yourself is to align yourself with that becoming and take part in it, to actively participate in your becoming.
And from Noch Noch’s beautiful blog, I know she is dancing just as I am, even though I describe that dance with my motto “Forge Thyself” and she with hers “Be Myself.”